I think I have waited to write this blog because I wasn’t sure if I should group every agreement together or try to talk about them separately. I finally decided that it was just time to write about it and see what happens. We often think about prevention of HIV and STDs as only being barriers like condoms or dental dams, but we don’t take into consideration the agreements we make when we say we are going to be in a monogamous relationship or when we get married and assume that we are partners are going to be faithful to us. I always tell people that just because Webster’s Dictionary has a definition of monogamy it doesn’t mean that it is my definition of monogamy. What I mean by this is we often use words when we make agreements, but we don’t actually define them. What if my definition of monogamy means that I have unprotected squishy (sex) with my primary partner, but when I hook up with other people we use barriers. Or what if I define monogamy as my partner “thinks” they are the only partner I have sex with. Webster’s Dictionary definition is MONOGAMY: the state or custom of being married to one person at a time or of having only one mate at a time. However you define monogamy it is important to share the same definition with your sex partner(s). By discussing your definitions, building a line of communication about relationship parameters, and being able to better understand the type of relationship that you are in; then you can identify how to best protect your health. #squishytalk
SquishyLady
Original Post: Oct 29, 2015 @ 11:49